I was noticing that more and more my family members seemed to be quite self-centered and there was a lot of bickering going on. I had to figure out a way to help encourage loving-kindness in our lives. But How?
Then I thought up an idea that really seemed to make a difference! We've called it the "I See Love Jar". What we do is have a cute, decorated mason jar on the counter and beside it is a post-it notes pad and a pen. Whenever someone sees someone else in the family showing love to each other, we write it down on a post-it note, fold the sticky tab in on itself and place it in the jar. It has amazed me how quickly these little acts of kindness helped to encourage everyone to think about others and how they might show love to each other. It also made them more aware of the kindnesses that were being shown to them.
It may be something as simple as someone sharing a favorite toy or helping a younger family member with a difficult task. Really, it can be anything that is seen by someone else as a loving thing to do. We are absolutely not perfect, of course- far from it! But this little jar has helped my family focus more on others instead of ourselves. It is being used to form habits in my children's lives that will benefit them for the rest of their lives.
If you decide to give this a try, please let me know how it goes! Do you already do something similar? What does that look like in your home?
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* Register Early for your Childbirth Series! I am now offering an Early Bird Discount for my Bradley Method Classes! Put in your deposit at least 2 months before your series begins to receive a $20 discount!
*Bundle services with Karen! The highest honor I could receive is for my Bradley® students to hire me as their doula! I want to say, "Thank you" by offering a discount to my current or past Bradley Method® Students. If you have paid for a full series of Bradley Method Classes with me, I am now offering a 20% discount on doula services!
I look forward to working with you to help you have a Happy Birth Day!
Any expectant mother can benefit from the nurturing support of a doula! You do not need to be planning a natural birth to benefit from the presence and support a doula provides. I have had the pleasure of supporting mothers and couples going through all types of birth experiences.
Many couples find it to be a fabulous idea to invest in preparing for your birth with childbirth classes, however, birth is not something we can completely control. Normally some things won't go exactly as planned and sometimes they end up far from what was expected. Does that mean the family will be destined to have a terrible birth experience? It does not have to mean that! Having a doula with you provides a continuity of care that is difficult to come by in today's fast-paced medical center. Doctors, nurses and often midwives who work in hospitals have a lot to manage and they sadly just do not have the time to devote a lot of attention to each patient, as I am sure they would wish for. This is where having the constant support of a doula can make a world of difference to the laboring mother and her support people. A doula will remain with the mother from the time she begins needing support in labor on through the birth of her baby and beyond! It is something that my clients have mentioned they were extremely grateful to have.
What if you are planning a scheduled cesarean section? You could still greatly benefit from the presence and care of a doula! There are many services a doula can provide as you prepare for surgery, go through your birth and recover. Even if you are having a scheduled cesarean birth, you still have options! A doula can help you advocate for those things that are most important to you!
What if you have a high-risk pregnancy? A doula can help you stay as healthy and low-risk as possible in other areas and can often provide the extra emotional support needed to go through a difficult pregnancy. All the other benefits of a doula still apply to high-risk pregnancies.
What if you choose an out-of-hospital birth? You could also benefit from the presence and support of a doula. Many mothers are still going to labor for a considerable amount of time before they head to the birthing center or call their homebirth midwives to arrive at their home. Doulas can provide support throughout the active labor, and often arrive before the midwives. Many mothers report feeling better supported and better able to work through their labors when supported by a doula throughout their active labor, birth and beyond.
Studies show that doulas decrease your risk of complications and interventions and are associated with better birth outcomes! So, why not contact a doula and set up a free consultation today. What questions do you have about doula services?
I created Carolina Moms Unite as a way to provide on-going support and community connection among new mothers, my childbirth students and doula clients. Mothers come and share what is on their hearts. Maybe they are going through struggles or changes and they have questions. This is not my time to talk, but rather their time to share not only their questions but also what has worked or is working for them! I encourage everyone to treat the gatherings like a buffet. Take what they like and leave the rest behind! We are diverse in our mothering styles, but that is to be expected and we embrace the differences and show compassion and acceptance to one another.
Motherhood is so rewarding, yet the challenges are real. Modern mothers do not have the support systems in place like they had in years past. With the electronic craze sweeping America, mothers report feeling much more lonely than in the past. Do you have the support you need? Do you have questions about pregnancy, mothering, how your body has changed after giving birth, or are you struggling with depression or feeling lonely? Getting into a support group can help meet your needs, find out how much you have to offer to help others and allow you to build lasting friendships.
Beginning in February 2018 we are going to try alternating our meeting locations between Gastonia, NC and Shelby, NC to see if we can build our group and reach out to more mothers in the area.
If you would like to attend the next Carolina Moms Unite meeting, click here to go to the Facebook event with all the details. Or call Karen for more information.
As I look ahead to next year, I would like to share some of my plans with you. I will continue to take doula clients, help mothers with breastfeeding, teach Bradley Method® childbirth series', hold monthly mom-to-mom support group meetings, attend quarterly doula meetings at Baby+Co in Charlotte, and attend monthly breastfeeding meetings at the Cleveland County WIC office in Shelby. However, I would love to add some new meet ups and teaching seminars to my schedule for 2018. Some of the ideas I have are:
Please comment below with your ideas. After all, I want to serve my community in the way that best meets their needs!
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Happy New Year to each of you!
Hypothetical, yet realistic thought process of a new mother, anticipating her upcoming in-home postpartum visit: "Oh, my goodness. What was I thinking scheduling my visit so soon after my birth?! What is my doula going to think coming into this cramped, cluttered, dirty apartment! I have got to get up and clean this place up before she gets here! I am so tired though, all I want to do is sleep...but I can't let her see my house looking like this!!"
I get it. I really do. So, here's what you can do to prepare for your in-home visit from me:
My students will often hear me say that where you give birth and who your birth team is will greatly impact how your birth goes! But for moms who live in our area, with just one health department, one OB office and one hospital, it can feel like you don't have any choice in the matter at all! However, there are actually several options you do have to help you achieve the natural birth you are wanting.